I
waited until long after the holidays were over to write this because the
holidays tend to make me oh so reactive
& I tend to not write blogs well in that state. It’s the insane amount of stress that the
holidays induce which makes me such fun person to be around in November and
December. That and the inevitable visit
from the least favorite person in my life -> the Sideline Narcissist (otherwise known as my mother-in-law.)
The irony
here is that Donald (actually had to look
bag at older blog entries to see what his alt name is hee) Bloody Loves the holidays. Of course, his contribution to the holidays
are usually cooking the turkey and putting up the Christmas tree. I handle pretty much all of the rest because
if it were left to Donald it wouldn’t get done.
(Procrastination does not work
well during the holidays.) So while
Donald gets all giddy at the approach of the holidays I pretty much turn into a
zombie who tries to feel as little as possible just to get through it. Yay.
Anyhow, the
inevitable visit occurred as it always does.
And Donald’s anxiety increases as it always does. And the Sideline Narcissist proceeded to
complain about anything and everything in her life because that’s pretty much
her modus operandi. My personal favorite
was when she began to talk about her niece referring to her as “Princess ….” and
definitely not meaning it in an endearing way.
The kicker was the Sideline Narcissist was obviously jealous of her
niece’s relationship with the SN’s sister, but instead of admitting that she
painted the niece as being entitled. (Cue the laughter from those who have ever
dealt with a Narcissist. Cuz this is
pretty much their trademark.) Donald
definitely gets points for this next bit as he interrupted her and asked how “Queen
Narcissist” (obviously he didn’t call her
that, but he did use her first name) would be arranging the visiting times
since she was displeased. It was pretty
epic.
The SN has
made several attempts to overtake her niece’s life and it makes me sad that no
one in Donald’s family will call her on her shit. Because of past experience I don’t deal with
most of the drama that happens regularly in Donald’s family. I pretty much just stay as far away from the
Sideline Narcissist as possible and educate my kiddos on what are healthy
emotional behaviors and those which aren’t.
So the
holidays are over (Huzzah) but Winter
hasn’t left yet and my stupid Seasonal Affective Disorder is in full
swing. Thankfully the depression isn’t
as bad as it was last year…it’s the being tired that’s killing me this
year. That and the nerve pain that
flares up every Winter. Also, the
Sideline Narcissist is making plans to come out in February. In my beleaguered state I’m seriously
considering getting a hotel room the weekend she’s coming out and giving myself
a mini-holiday. It’ll piss Donald off
but I’m finding more and more that I just don’t care.
On a good
note I’m reading a great book called The Highly Sensitive Person by Elaine Aron
which is giving great insight on so many levels. It was less than $10 when I purchased it
through Amazon, so definitely worth the money.
Also, I’m getting quite a bit of writing accomplished. So good stuff. Gotta remember the good stuff when the SAD
kicks in and all I want to do is sleep.
